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Reminder: there is no such thing as a perfect person for you or a perfect relationship. The most you can hope for is like 80%/20% ratio of awesome to not-awesome. Period. Waiting around for THE ONE who will be EVERYTHING you're looking for is not a great plan. Not to say you should settle, but you should definitely expect that something really good, pretty consistently, over time might be as close to perfect as you'll get. And it's also important to remember that all the stu

"You must love in such a way that the one you love feels free" is a favorite quote of mine by Thich Nhat Hahn.

Let me say again: conflict isn't bad. It means there's is something that needs figuring out. Everybody comes into a relationship with their own shit. Sometimes your shit is going to consistently bump up against their shit.

Foundational friendship is key...

If you are partnered with an INFJ, is important for you to understand - even if it is not immediately obvious- that they are incredibly empathetic and sensitive, and that this is both a blessing and a curse.

In my opinion, the way a man interacts with his children is a glimpse into his truest nature. If a man is gentle, patient, tender, and...

Reminder: feelings are not facts, and not every feeling needs to be outwardly expressed. Every time a negative feeling is invoked within...

I just wanted to share this cute thing I made. Canva is my nemesis so it is a pretty big accomplishment. 😂

Reminder: In adulthood, friendships should be value-added, not energetically costly and disappointing. Nobody has time for toxic friends...

The advice I provide dissatisfied couples with children - of which there are MANY- is consistent and often revolves around finding ways...

This Elon/Don nonsense is a prime example of how NOT to do conflict. It's petty, personal, low-blow. It's violent and intends to do harm....

My bottom line is what it always is: Communication is vital. Conflict isn't bad as long as you learn to do it well. Do the work to make your relationship a space you both feel safe and want to be in. Not every relationship can or should be saved. There's no shame in asking for help. (ever)

I attended an informational meeting this morning about the standardized testing they do at my daughter's school, which begins in second...

Someone new to me commented recently "you have a lot of preferences." They didn't say it in a critical way, just observing....

If you're constantly biting your tongue, blowing up, or wondering why people just don’t get it—you’re not broken. But your communication might need a serious tune-up. Here are 10 signs your conversations aren’t working—and how to start doing it differently.

Groups are a lower-cost, lower-pressure way to get help, perspective, and connection. You still get expert guidance (hi, licensed clinical social worker here), but in a shared space that often feels more relatable and less intimidating.